I was chatting with a friend today and we were talking about how sometimes, our brains tell us to engage in things that don’t really feel that great. It’s hard to explain. I guess it’s in the context of self-care, does that help?
Like, okay picture this.
It’s a Tuesday evening (ugh the worst day ever) after a long day. You get home from work and head for the blanket cocoon on the couch to root yourself in for a night of the office and maybe some takeout.
There’s a quiet voice in the back of your mind, the voice whispers “maybe go for a quick walk, you know you’ll feel good”.
For some reason, it’s easier to talk ourselves out of doing the thing that will make us feel better than the blanket cocoon options. Some part of our brain almost makes the enjoyable, meaningful, important self-care thing seem like so much work, or like it’s just too energy draining. But, like, the times that we do the self-care thing, we feel great. It’s getting to the part where you’re able to actually do the self-care thing.
It doesn’t really make sense, I don’t really understand why we do it?
Is it an ego protecting itself thing? Like, we know we deserve to participate in meaningful activities or hobbies we enjoy. But like, the self-ish, lazy, part of our ego is like “nope, stay home and lay on the couch and feel like shit so I can have a pity party”?
I don’t know. I can’t really figure it out. There has to be a reason for it, and I know I’m not the only one who feels this way? Like honestly, what is getting in our way of doing what we love and taking the time to do things that bring us joy or that make us feel energized and recharged.
If we know something is good for us, brings us joy, or helps us, why do we actively choose to do the opposite of it and expect to feel any different?